The dream of every woman is to become a mother and also become a grand mother one day, this ideal is so overwhelming but some women have this dread for their mother in-law, either as result of stories they have heard from their fellow women concerning mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws relationship. Women as party to procreation have a great role to play hence they can not be substituted; therefore every family is expected to project the continuity of their linage through marriage via procreation. This brings us to the need for harmony between the mother-in-law and her daughter in-law. It will be wrong to say that all mother in-laws are bad or vise-visa and this does not warrant ill-treatment towards either of them. Most times mother in-laws tries to see that their baby-boy does not get into the wrong hand while trying to get married, so at the time of forming the relationship and the introduction of the would-be wife to the mother in-law, sometimes, some miss-giving may arise which would prompt future antagonism and hatred in the relationship of these progenitors of the family. Studies has shown that in the beat for mother in laws to show-case their love /care towards their baby-boy they become over-bearing and over-protective thereby incurring the wrath of their daughter in-laws who sees her actions as over-stepping her bounds. There are situations where the mother in-law as the senior progenitor who knows all the rules and practices of the family would want to project it and inculcate these ideals into the newly formed family but may run into a ditched/ contrary view of the daughter in-in-law. No matter whatever may be your grievances towards your mother in-law, always have it at the back of your mind that one day you too would become a mother in –law to some other person. As much as you are ready to put up your fight towards sustaining your marriage, also consider the mother in-law factor as one challenge to overcome. Do not fight this battle with the intent to destroy but fight with the intention to win every body over to your side. It is tricky fight which is capable of making you to lose your husband’s love and affection or completely destroy your relationship.
Daughter in-laws should note that as they were total strangers with their husbands at beginning of their relationship, so are they with the mother in-law, therefore it behooves them to win the love and admiration of their mother in-laws, no matter how difficult she might seemed to be.
Being a wife today makes you a potential mother in-law to be, therefore I urge you to treat her with understanding and to enable proper bonding to take place. Naturally, there seemed to be a strong bond between mothers and their sons, therefore your entry should not up-set them but complement their existing relationship, which you have become part of, and willing to sustain.
Let your actions always assure your mother in-law of your sincere intentions and love for her and that her position in the family is well understood and protected. I assure you that you would enjoy your marriage while your mother-law enjoys the love of both of you. Our concern is for you to enjoy your marriage. Cheers.

Prince Vincent

Suppose you lived in a two room apartment with your partner, how would you organize your living space? Option (a) Shared bedroom would be a must. Option (b) each person would have his or her own room, but at least one of them would have to be set up so we could spend the night together. When I came across the above question in a recent survey that set out to find out how many couples would prefer separate bedroom, a friend’s recent plight came to mind. Married for years, middle aged husband was suddenly having an affair. The heart-broken bit about this was watching him make the effort to look good most nights and knowing he was making all these effort to look good for another woman.” She said sadly. She lives a big house with several bedrooms with her family, why didn’t she move into one of rooms if her husband’s antics were giving her so much stress? She looked at me as if I’d gone off rocker.” if moved to another room, I might not have any intimacy with him again. I mean, for now, whenever he’s home, he sleeps in our bedroom and that ‘gives me hope that this affairs will soon blow over …” The result of survey revealed that 22 percent of the couples polled chose the option of separate bedrooms. Traditionally, happy couples have spent night after night, year after year, sharing a room and the double in it. But figures in the survey seem to show a shift in the way many couples now think.

The assumption that loving couples always sleep together could soon be a thing of the pass. Experts believe it is a need for personal space that is driving this trend. That although a snoring partner, hectic lifestyle, and children will certainly cause sleeplessness for many couples, the truth is that none of these appear to be the main issue in a couple’s decision to opt for separate rooms. That some people have such a need for their own personal space that sharing a bedroom would be a turn-off. One trend with most palatial homes these days is that most of them have master’s bedrooms.

This a relatively new thing probably to do with people becoming more independent, leading busier, more active lives, “explains.
The fact remains though that in our society, sharing a double bed is a symbol of intimacy, it obviously creates the opportunity to have sexual intimacy and that’s why it has always been a focus. But all those rules are there to be bent. What intimacy means to one person may be different from what it means to another. And it must be emphasized that sleeping together is still important for the majority of couples in spite of the snoring, bed cover hugging, night time reading, and disruption by young children. What is important is that each couple decides which method suits them most without ulterior motives being suspected.
Cheers.

Prince Vincent. www.savingmymarriageblog.com

Couples need to spend time together in order to strengthen their bond. There is a distinct line between time spent beneficially and time which can actually cause bad feelings and discord. Time spent together as a couple should be beneficial to both. Couples just starting a new relationship may want to spend every spear minute together, which may sound unhealthy to outsiders but both are getting and receiving the intimacy they crave. As long as you and your partner feel this bond growing stronger, the linear time spent together should be viewed as healthy. If you are starting a new relationship and it begins to take shape, it may be a good time to examine the effect it’s having on your own personal life. Are you still meeting your other responsibilities, like work, business, and sleep? Are you maintaining your ties with family and friends? I f you notice a definite negative change in your daily routine; you may be spending too much time with your partner and not leaving enough time for yourself.
One of the hardest things to do in a relationship is manage your time together wisely, but that’s what needs to happen in order to maintain your own emotional and physical well being. Whether it is a formal date or a casual visit, some one has to determine when it’s time to part ways. It may not always be a mutual decision, but a time boundary must be established in the time you spend together, especially in a relationship that has not yet culminated into marriage. In marital relationship, couples should endeavor to spend quality time together through thick and thin. Work-time time schedule that will be beneficial to both, in order to enable you enjoy quality time together. Please work to hard to save your marriage, because some times, it takes one determined partner to make things work. Cheers

Prince Vincent
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It’s expected that when people are married they should live together as husband and wife but sometimes factors beyond them keeps them in different locations, some marriages have suffered as a result of this distant-relationships. Couples who would never have thought of having problems in their marriages are saddled with some problems generated by these distant marriage affairs. Probably you would not have conceded to marry him, if you knew very well the problems associated with distant relationships. Now that you’re into it, your choice should be to work hard towards saving your marriage. It has been observed that women suffer more in this distant relationship; take for instance, a man marries a wife and spent just six months with the new wife, and gets an opportunity to travel abroad. The man goes ahead to make promises to his wife of good things of life which his traveling abroad will bring to their new family. The wife naturally agrees to her husband’s proposal seeing the goodies promised, and believing every word of her husband to be true. But most times the wife is short-sighted and would not bother about the other side to the coin. Some of these arrangements are infested with numerous un-seen problem which shows up at there due time.

Tips To Watch For;

Communications becomes seldom, and in-affectionate in his discussions (It shows a crack on the wall of the marriage)

1. Its possible for the other party to see his/her spouse as money making machine (focuses on material things)

2. How does he/she fill his/her sexual desires( this arrangement will matter to both parties, since it might attract other factors)

3. This arrangement is easily infected with the virus of infidelity( some times an arranged wife is even organized abroad, it might be with knowledge of the substantive wife)

4. Since marriage is an art of co-habiting between two mutually loving people, distance always pose a barrier to the relationship, it breeds coldness and suspicion in the affairs.

5. Some couple pretends to be in love with their spouse while internally suffering from neglect and abandonment in the relationship.

6. Does he/she abhor un-scheduled visit of you to his/her location? (He or She Could is two timing you).

Distance relationships are not totally problematic it depends on how the couple allows the factors that destroy marriage to invade them. Examples are bound of couple who have made success of their marriages, while some have mischievous and taken advantage their spouse absence to cause the marriage to collapse. Whether you are involved in a long-distance marriage or not, be sure are honest and fair to your partner at all time knowing that it will matter in your lives and well being of the relationship.

Enjoy your marriage to the fullest. Cheers.

Prince Vincent

The perception of love by many is that of roses and glowing but some times love can be very difficult especially in marriage .Lets be fair. A situation where it brings two people together, two people with very different personalities, tastes, desires and puts them in such a close proximity that their faults and weaknesses will be discovered. As a result, all marriages go through periods of disaffection, times when love feels distant, cold, times when you just seem to have “lost the loving feeling.” When conflict and misunderstanding occur, what happens during these times will usually set the course for the rest of the marriage

Unfortunately, disaffection often times wins out, because couple seem to be taken unaware, and under aware that their love has drifted. An estimated 50 percent of today’s couples will see their marriages end in divorce, most of them within the first seven years. And those are just the raw statistics. Many of those who stay in their marriages lives unhappily behind closed doors. In the quite corners of their hearts are profound sorrow and emptiness.

Chances are you or some one you love has a marriage in trouble right now, it seemed every thing is crumbling before your eyes, but what do you do to rescue your once happy, lovely marriage from these monsters? I will outline some of them here.

When conflict first hits, every couple has some doubt and also wonders how they might lose at love. After all neither of them is necessarily a hateful person, neither is particularly selfish, or at least it seemed they didn’t start out that way. We found out that couples when caught in this web of trouble always resort to self defenses /preservation; they dig in their heels and lay the blame for the problems at the feet of their spouse. This losing strategy and is guaranteed to allow the problems to foster and grow. But there’s hope for the troubled marriage. Because the cycle is predictable, if the steps are understood, the courageous couple can work to stop the cycle, arrest the destructive spiral, and literally save their marriage. Most couple s wants what it takes to keep their marriage afloat, and by understanding how they got to where they are, they can reverse the process and breathe new life into their marriage.

B. STRESS

Our every day pressure has also helped in widening the gape of disaffection in marriages. We are pulled in every direction, busy and going nowhere fast, having to do more with less time. Before long, tempers flare, stomachs ache, health problems, and demanding work schedules. Take an inventory. What stresses have been tearing at your relationship since you married?

Take a little time today to work on your marriage, looking at these factors which we have stressed above, and do not resort to self-defenses and bulk passing. Confront the matters as they were.   Enjoy a fun-filled marriage today!

Prince Vincent.

Second key ingredient for fulfilling sex life is fostering a spirit of playfulness. We have to liken our selves to the state of little children, to be able to experience playfulness which is the key ingredient to enjoying fulfilled sex life. Consider the nature of children who would play with their mates whole-kindheartedly without any form of deceit or concealment of ill-feeling towards each other.
Couples can not experience the fullness of sexual intimacy unless they come to it in a child like manner, curiosity and playfulness. The grown-up parts of us don’t have much place in the bedroom setting. Disrobing and arousing each other calls for a spirit of adventure, of teasing, risk-taking and a bit of wild-eyed invitation to join us in playful exploration. Therefore couples are encouraged to create a lively and playful atmosphere. Start today by finding a game two can play. You can do some soft-wrestling with your spouse, or catch me if you can games. As you devote more time to play together, you would find your sexual life styles will improves.
Cheers and have a lively married life.

Prince Vincent

Marriage is sacred and those who are involved in the union must try at all times; to play by the rule so that peace which is pivot on which marriage and family life rotates can guarantee their enjoyment of their respective unions.
Recently the news media is washed with news of celebrities involved in sexual escapades outside their marital union. The captain of English football team (Mr. John Terry) has been reported to be romancing another player’s estranged spouse which the coach of English team saw as not allowing healthy dressing-room relationship among players of ‘three lion’s as English team is called. This affair has affected his removal as the captain of English team.
The number one golf player “Mr. Tiger Wood “is also fighting the battle of his life to regain his integrity at hands of his wife, sponsors, and fans, after admitting being involved in extra-marital affairs. Several celebrities have been engaged in extra martial affairs in the past, some theirs got exposed while some still have theirs under cover. Nevertheless, let us now look at some of the reasons why some married people would venture into extra-marital affaires despite having such a beautiful spouse.

• Many married people are so pry-occupied with duty-calls that their marital responsibilities have taken a back seat (some claimed they have provided her with all she needed) and they expect their spouse to be happy and show understanding.
• Some women are created with hate for sex, therefore they can afford to endure the absence of it while some can not endure for a day hence if you apply a general rule, and some would definitely get their feel somewhere else. Therefore to save marriage and your spouse from embarrassing moments, you are advised to weigh and understand the sexual needs of each other and see how to compliment him or her. Compromise is always needed to succeed in any marriage union.
• Can you take a look at your dressing recently? Is it the same thing as at time you meet each other? Despite that marriage is also a spiritual matter, but I still believed that what our eyes sees contributes a lot to what we accepts. Please see where you have fallen below his/her expectation and make amends, so that his or her passion for you will continue to wax hot.
• What is your bed-room mannerism? Have you taken a look at what you wear to bed of late? Men and women who are in marriage should endeavor always to impress one another, to curtail any outside impressions.
• You can do your best by helping your spouse to life-out his sexual urge and be happy with each other.

Prince Vincent

At the beginning  of every relationship couples have popped-up emotions and bottled-up fantasies which they intend to live out on their marriage, some succeeds in bring their fantasy to reality as the prince-charming struggles to impress the wife and vice verse. Most times couples do their best to prove to their spouse that what happened to them during courtship and honeymoon was not a fluke. The amazing thing about family life is that it is not always with roses, it is a balanced sweet-bitter taste for matured minds. Comparing the courtship, honeymoon and family life-style will be doing wrong thing for right reason Some couple have found themselves still savoring the memories of their courtship and honeymoon era while the reality on the ground is presenting a tough family challenge to the couple. Some times duty call and expanded responsibilities can bring neglect to either party. This condition can be misinterpreted by either spouse, depending on who is too busy. It’s at this jointure that doubt, and suspicion sets into the relationship and May mare their once sweet relationship. It’s been noted that wives of busy executives indulges more in extra-marital because their spouse are not always with them to play their conjugal role, hence some has resorted to alternative means to settle this emotional need of their life thereby creating a problem in the relationship. To avoiding extra marital relationship, couple must begin to bond together, and play their expected roles toward one another. Especially during this valentine celebration, efforts must be geared towards showing each other how much you love him or her. It’s expedient you present your spouse with exciting gift/love notes at this valentine season. Nothing stops you from preparing for a special night out side your home, where you can pamper each other with exciting love and affection. Hey! Take this time to rekindle your love and passion for one another. 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Some couple can see marriage as a pain in the neck because of the way they have conducted it. Can you imagine having to ask your partner every need of your life? Even when you can afford to buy them by yourself, it’s either because you see yourself as a wife who must get every of your needs you’re your husband (why did he marry me if he can not provide for me?). In the running of the home, it is expected that both couples should be sincere in dealing with finances whether it s been earned by one of them or both. Some times, it’s amazing to see some working ladies (Career women) dodge their financial obligation to the family while expecting their male partner to shoulder the whole responsibility, merely because he is a man, while the wife engages in frivolous spending. Family spending should be prioritized on the needs of the family and also should the decision of both couple, some times children are meant to contribute their ideas to some certain issues especially when their interests are involved. Because some are stingy and selfish in their marriages hence this attitude has brought them pain.
This attitude has destroyed several marriages, especially when both partners are educated and has a well paying job.

Take for an example, a friend of mine lost his marriage recently as result several crises in the marriage but their major problem being the way moneywas earned and spent. The wife sees her husband as financial tree hence she would not contribute her primary quota to the running of the home. Here is our advice to couples, if you must make your marriage work .Be open to your partner concerning everything that comes into the purse of the family. When both of you are on a paying job or having other source of income, it’s advised that you should let your partner know how much comes into the purse and also engage in the planning of the family expenditure. It is necessary to eliminate all cracks of suspension on both ends. Some men have not done well in this regards, especially when they would make provision for some social expenditures which they would not like their partners to be aware of, thereby creating room for suspension of extra-marital affairs which is not healthy for the relationship.

Sharing responsibility makes every load lighter in the home; it’s very worrisome when somebody who is supposed to lend a helping hand decides to be on the contrary.

Begin today to work-out your differences, and create a healthy relationship with your partner.