Couples need to spend time together in order to strengthen their bond. There is a distinct line between time spent beneficially and time which can actually cause bad feelings and discord. Time spent together as a couple should be beneficial to both. Couples just starting a new relationship may want to spend every spear minute together, which may sound unhealthy to outsiders but both are getting and receiving the intimacy they crave. As long as you and your partner feel this bond growing stronger, the linear time spent together should be viewed as healthy. If you are starting a new relationship and it begins to take shape, it may be a good time to examine the effect it’s having on your own personal life. Are you still meeting your other responsibilities, like work, business, and sleep? Are you maintaining your ties with family and friends? I f you notice a definite negative change in your daily routine; you may be spending too much time with your partner and not leaving enough time for yourself.
One of the hardest things to do in a relationship is manage your time together wisely, but that’s what needs to happen in order to maintain your own emotional and physical well being. Whether it is a formal date or a casual visit, some one has to determine when it’s time to part ways. It may not always be a mutual decision, but a time boundary must be established in the time you spend together, especially in a relationship that has not yet culminated into marriage. In marital relationship, couples should endeavor to spend quality time together through thick and thin. Work-time time schedule that will be beneficial to both, in order to enable you enjoy quality time together. Please work to hard to save your marriage, because some times, it takes one determined partner to make things work. Cheers

Prince Vincent
www.savingmymarriageblog.com

Part one

By Prince Vincent

In the context of what I’m discussing, I would wish to define a “home as a nucleus training centre for marriages which produces great effect on the off-springs.
Growing children are always looking -up at their parents as role-models.  While they were growing-up in their families, we assumed that they’re equally under-going an in-house training for marriage.
But whether what they learn will impacts positively or negatively on their marriages in future is a question for another day. Whatever they pick from their parents as marital behaviors will definitely have an influence on them in future. In my case, I indeed went through the same in-house – marriage- training centre. My environment presented me with negative influences, but I should have picked the negative aspect as my behavioral heritage from my parents, since that was what was available to me. But I decided to jettison the marriage behavioral training I pick-up from my parents (family) because it would rather put nail on the coffin of my marriage than to make it work.
I’m going to let you into my background. My parents were not the best couples, but when I became aware of my environment, I realized that the way they were relating to each other we’re far from being friendly and what married life  should look like.
There were incidence of hatred, fighting, battery, and general lack of affection in the home which extended and affected even the children.

My mother was severally manhandled by my father. They could not have been a role model for any anticipating couple, especially a young- star like me, who detested every  ill-treatment to my mother. They had several quarrels caused by minor issues.
I won’t forget in a hurry, how my mother’s head was broken with a burnt-brick (block) by my father just because she asked for money to barbe my hair; that brought the stone crashing upon her head.
She was hospitalized and police was brought into the matter, but our big (extended) family intervened and they sued for peace reconciliation because the off-springs of the union. With all that has happened in my parents’ marriage, it became oblvious that my perception of marriage has been soiled. My young mind was engolfed with fear of what step to take and would not end-up as a failure in marriage like my parents. In my understanding, marriage based on my parents attitude/experience, is bound to fail. I was almost deciding not to be involved in marriage.

On my becoming a man and thinking of getting married or re-considering my earlier stand, the issue of my parents’ relationship became a thing of concern again. Those who knew our family would think that I’m going be a replica of my father in character. Yes, some have already made-up their minds on me, and became advocates/protectors of my would-be wife.
It is not amusing how some people who knew us (our family) went to my- would- be in-laws to inform them of what awaits their daughter, should they allow her to marry me. Some relationships I had, collapsed as result of my parent’s stinking marriage.

This fact threw a challenge to me. I then decided to prove every body wrong, by charting a new course for my life. All the evil behaviors which characterized my parent’s marriage were the things I was determined not be associated with.
I took this decision to prove that I could be whatever I’m determined to, but not what people think I should be. A saying goes that “A leopard can not be without spots”. It has been proven wrong in my case.

ATTITUDE TO SEX THAT AFFECTS MARRIAGES.

By prince Vincent

The act of fore-play in a sexual relationship can not be over emphasized. Some men do not prepare their wife for this act which is most important, and the very oil that greases the machine of the marriage.

Many women feel boring whenever their husbands demand for sex.
Not because they don’t want it, but because of the way their husbands approaches them for such an act .some men don’t know that every woman is like electric iron, when you plug it, it takes some minute before it gets hot or charges. So also every woman needs romance before the real act (sex)

Some husband will return from office/work, and order their wife to the bed, when she obeyed, he will jump onto her like cow and when he gets tired he will jump down without minding whether his wife is satisfied or not .No woman is pleased with such a man.

The worst thing you can do to your partner is to deny him or her SEXUAL SATISFACTION. My friend, allow your wife to reach her orgasm, otherwise she will be frustrated anytime she notice your move for such act.

Many homes have been broken because of SEX DENIAL. Most men hate their wives because of that .The major thing that causes problem in a family today is the issue of SEX DENIAL. Many men have reported their partner to pastors, confidants and elders of their family on the issues of SEX DENIAL, not knowing that they are the cause of the whole problem. Electric iron can not iron your clothe without being charged, so also no woman can give you SEXUAL SATISFACTION without enough romance .So reporting her to your pastors, elders and confidants is not the issue, the issue is to learn how to make love with your partner and satisfy her.

Learn all methods of love-making and put them in practice to nourish your marriage. The essence of satisfying lovemaking in a marriage can NOT be over emphasized. In every institution there are principles and practices, and people who belong to that institution must put themselves in a state to obey the rules of the institution for harmony and well being of partners. The same principle applies to marriage, and her components. Therefore the following methods are to enable both of you to enjoy each other. When you continue to practice one method of love-making (missionary position) every day it becomes a routine, and tends to bore. Take action today, and make your marital sex life lively.

v Sitting position
v Rear entry position
v Face to face, side by side position
v Face to face, man on top
v Face to face, woman on top.

They say that variety is the spice of life, couples are advised to not to take feelings of their spouse for granted.
Sexual relationship in marriage is a bonding and nourishing factor which can not be toyed with, if any one wants a healthy and happy married life .You may have to change your attitude towards sex, you may be like me, who has been taught from childhood that sex should not be talked about, or discussed. It is possible you’ve imbibed this attitude. Now that you’re married, it’s affecting your sexual relationship with your spouse.
Couple should whole-heartedly discuss their affairs/feelings towards each other; tell him or her, what he is not doing right to you on bed. Especially when they’re on these regimes which I categorize as follows;

1. High (actively involved and enjoying it)

2. Low (Not actually enjoying it but not complaining)

3. None existing. (A time when it is neither here nor there

During these regimes their sexual relationship could be classified as such judging by their activeness. There are times when work-place fatigue sets in, and the couple becomes excuse making on bed instead of giving their sweet-hearts a romantic night-to- remember. There are some other social factors which we shall discuss other times as part of the matters affecting marriage relationship.

Take a look at your sex life, and tell yourself that you’re satisfied with what you’re getting from your marriage relationship? But where you‘re not satisfied, and then you should seek ways to improve the factors you identify as attacking your sexual marital happiness.
Stay passionately and be romantically hooked, because your
Union is meant to last a life-time. Stay blessed until when I shall be taking you through another saving my marriage topic. Thanks for finding time to visit our site, and checking out what we have for you.
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Penix