Part two;

By Prince Vincent

DECISION TO SUCEED

I said to myself, (Vincent) you must succeed in your marriage, though your parents have failed.  No matter what your parent’s marriage life-styles may be, you must distinguish yourself. My decision to be different from my background helped me to treat these ladies that came my-way or I dated thereafter, with fairness. I treated them like the queens they were in my life. I have never lifted a hand upon a lady, because I swore not to be part of such evil/ ill-treatment. Even right now, when ever I leant of any woman who has been battered by a man, my heart is pained. While I was un-married,
I made lists of matters that would not be part of our marriage, hence I met my wife. I want to testify to the glory of God, that since our marriage in May 29th 1992. We have never fought over any mater (battery), neither have I lifted my hand upon her as to show my masculinity. Yes we had to disagree in some matters but not to the extent of physical assault. I developed a way to express my dis-likes, without causing dis-affection or commotion.
As a man of the family, I remembered when we got married newly; it was not easy for us go to through the process of integration and fussing into one body judging from our different background.
Because I was determined to make my marriage work, so every impediment was resisted with love as a pivot. Take for instance a situation where I had to be the one to plead with my wife, whenever we had misunderstandings, even if she was the one at fault. I realized she was finding it difficult to say “I’m sorry”. But that did not bother me hence I was determined to save my marriage. It was possible that her attitude was as a result of her background. I reasoned that she could be coming from similar background like mine, and may not have taken time to appraise or counsel herself on the matter. Therefore she needs my patience and understanding to make amends.
Some situations wanted me to express a kind of regret in the union, but each time I remembered my resolve to make the difference between my marriage and my parent’s
marriage’ I was motivated.
My advise to couples is that they must be determined to say no” to matters fighting to destroy their marriages. No matter what the marriage counselors would advise, it is in their power to accept or not to accept. The best result comes from what they decided to do with the advise given, One of them must be ready to make the scarifies to succeed. The couple had power of their own to determine what fate holds for their marriage.

At the beginning of my marriage I had challenges of different factors, especially the ones based on some information concerning my background which my wife had pick-up from my kinsmen/family relations.
Some of them intentionally wanted to create bases for crisis in the new union. While some wanted to fore-warn her on what to expect from me, knowing that the off-springs of a leopard’ll not fail to have spot. If you put yourself in the shoe of my wife, tell me, what’ll you do with those various challenging/harmful infomations? Definitely it will impact on your marriage negatively.

Yes you may want to ignore these informatio9ns at first, but if any incident or behaviour from your wife reminds you of those imformations, then she would   play-it-up as a weapon in your hands, which would be injurious to the marriage.
But I knew where the problems we’re coming from; hence I decided to handle the situation with tact. I discussed the matter with my wife open-heartedly on the subject matter, and put all her fears to rest.
I made her my friend to whom I may discuss all things, irrespective of how odd they may be. I gave her first-hand information concerning my family background, so that whatever information she may pick from “poke-nosier” will not be news to her ears any longer.

Your background may be like mine, it is possible you have suffered more consequences than me as result of your parent’s marital style; nevertheless, you can rebuild your marriage today and save yourselves the catastrophe of divorce. You can recreate that fantasy in your heart and make it to work in your marriage.
I’m presently living happily with my wife in marriage, we urge you do all in your powers to put away crisis and put on in its’ entirety, flourishing love. Please feel free to discuss any matter that will help save your marriage with me.

Thanks,

Prince Vincent

ATTITUDE TO SEX THAT AFFECTS MARRIAGES.

By prince Vincent

The act of fore-play in a sexual relationship can not be over emphasized. Some men do not prepare their wife for this act which is most important, and the very oil that greases the machine of the marriage.

Many women feel boring whenever their husbands demand for sex.
Not because they don’t want it, but because of the way their husbands approaches them for such an act .some men don’t know that every woman is like electric iron, when you plug it, it takes some minute before it gets hot or charges. So also every woman needs romance before the real act (sex)

Some husband will return from office/work, and order their wife to the bed, when she obeyed, he will jump onto her like cow and when he gets tired he will jump down without minding whether his wife is satisfied or not .No woman is pleased with such a man.

The worst thing you can do to your partner is to deny him or her SEXUAL SATISFACTION. My friend, allow your wife to reach her orgasm, otherwise she will be frustrated anytime she notice your move for such act.

Many homes have been broken because of SEX DENIAL. Most men hate their wives because of that .The major thing that causes problem in a family today is the issue of SEX DENIAL. Many men have reported their partner to pastors, confidants and elders of their family on the issues of SEX DENIAL, not knowing that they are the cause of the whole problem. Electric iron can not iron your clothe without being charged, so also no woman can give you SEXUAL SATISFACTION without enough romance .So reporting her to your pastors, elders and confidants is not the issue, the issue is to learn how to make love with your partner and satisfy her.

Learn all methods of love-making and put them in practice to nourish your marriage. The essence of satisfying lovemaking in a marriage can NOT be over emphasized. In every institution there are principles and practices, and people who belong to that institution must put themselves in a state to obey the rules of the institution for harmony and well being of partners. The same principle applies to marriage, and her components. Therefore the following methods are to enable both of you to enjoy each other. When you continue to practice one method of love-making (missionary position) every day it becomes a routine, and tends to bore. Take action today, and make your marital sex life lively.

v Sitting position
v Rear entry position
v Face to face, side by side position
v Face to face, man on top
v Face to face, woman on top.

They say that variety is the spice of life, couples are advised to not to take feelings of their spouse for granted.
Sexual relationship in marriage is a bonding and nourishing factor which can not be toyed with, if any one wants a healthy and happy married life .You may have to change your attitude towards sex, you may be like me, who has been taught from childhood that sex should not be talked about, or discussed. It is possible you’ve imbibed this attitude. Now that you’re married, it’s affecting your sexual relationship with your spouse.
Couple should whole-heartedly discuss their affairs/feelings towards each other; tell him or her, what he is not doing right to you on bed. Especially when they’re on these regimes which I categorize as follows;

1. High (actively involved and enjoying it)

2. Low (Not actually enjoying it but not complaining)

3. None existing. (A time when it is neither here nor there

During these regimes their sexual relationship could be classified as such judging by their activeness. There are times when work-place fatigue sets in, and the couple becomes excuse making on bed instead of giving their sweet-hearts a romantic night-to- remember. There are some other social factors which we shall discuss other times as part of the matters affecting marriage relationship.

Take a look at your sex life, and tell yourself that you’re satisfied with what you’re getting from your marriage relationship? But where you‘re not satisfied, and then you should seek ways to improve the factors you identify as attacking your sexual marital happiness.
Stay passionately and be romantically hooked, because your
Union is meant to last a life-time. Stay blessed until when I shall be taking you through another saving my marriage topic. Thanks for finding time to visit our site, and checking out what we have for you.
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Penix

Sometimes we find it difficult to trust another person with our hearts, this is especially true in a new relationship. How can we overcome our trust issues to open ourselves up to trusting and loving another human being? Marriage problems having to do with trust issues are extremely common and having difficulties in this area can be the difference between success and failure in a relationship, so it is first very important to identify where these issues are coming from.

You need to first figure out if you are just feeling insecure, or if your spouse is exhibiting some sort of behavior that is helping to foster your distrust.In either case, you must work to fix these issues because they can be the death of any marriage if they are allowed to linger without being addressed. I personally had been cheated on in my past, and honestly had cheated in past relationships. When I entered the relationship with my current husband, I vowed to change my behavior and to never have cheating become an issue. There have been times in the past that I have worried that he might cheat, but then I realized that putting extra energy into this thought was not serving either of us.

I have vowed to myself to always trust my husband and to believe that he is doing the right thing, until I have a real reason not to. Running around worrying about where he is and who he is talking to is to say the least a very immature attitude. In order to have an adult relationship with your spouse, you must believe in your heart that everything will be okay.

You must trust implicitly the fact that your spouse will be true to you, and locking him up and not allowing him to speak to women, will not stop him from cheating if that is what he is going to do. It is my experience that doing this will just encourage lying and deceit, as your spouse is going to speak to members of the opposite sex, but if he knows it bothers you, then he just may avoid telling you about it. This can be worse because then you don’t really know what is going on with him.

Encourage open, honest communication with your spouse and allow them to tell you about things that happen. Feel comfortable enough with yourself and your husband to listen to him and not pass judgment on the situation. Distrust will eat away at your marriage, so try to address these issues as they arise and you will find that you have a healthier, happier relationship because of it.