4. Difficulties with Penetration.
The commonest difficulty with penetration is a condition called vaginimus. It is a phobic anxiety response to any attempt at vaginal penetration, in which the woman becomes anxious tension occurs in the vaginal muscles, and any attempt at penetration is painful.
Vaginismus may have followed by an unpleasant traumatic sexual event in the woman’s life but usually occurs because of ignorance or misinformation or from guilt developed from parental sexual attitudes.
Pain during intercourse may be due to other problems such as pelvic infections
5. Sexual Phobia
Vaginismus is an example of a sexual phobia, where one particular aspect of the sexual act becomes anxiety provoking. Some women show phobia avoidance of semen, and rush from the bed to have a vigorous shower whenever they come in contact with their partner’s semen.
Such phobic avoidance can totally ruin a sexual relationship.
5. Anomalous Sexual Behaviour
The prevalence of lesbianism in women is higher than in men (in Europe) and is probably tolerable due to the fact that lesbianism in women is more socially tolerable over there and it is also not illegal, the a etiology of lesbianism is obscure and there appears to be consistent adults hormonal reason for it.
Transsexualism also occurs in the women. A transsexual is convinced despite outward appearance that she is of the opposite sex. This fixed belief is usually held from childhood. The person feels comfortable if dressed in the clothes of the opposite sex and indeed may seek corrective surgery. The social pressure on the individual to conform to her outward sexual stereotype causes a great distress.
Treatment
A full assessment of sexual problem is necessary before treatment .Physical problems rarely cause of sexual difficulty.
IT CAN BE DIFFICULT TO DECIDE WHETHER SEXUAL DIFFICULTY IS CAUSING A MARITAL PROBLEM OR A MARITAL PROBLEM IS CAUSING A SEXUAL DIFFICULTY.
Obvious hostility or coldness between partners however is a poor sign in terms of a successful treatment of sexual difficulty.
Psychological methods of treatment based on behavioral principles are the most effective methods of treating sexual difficulties. Masters and Johnson’s techniques appear to be the bench mark by which other treatment options are measured. If you are worried about any of the discussed sexual disorders, see a Medical Doctor with training and interest in psycho-sexual problems.cheers

Disorder of interest (loss of libido).2. Difficulties in Arousal
Some women who lack sexual interest also can not be arouse. But some women who have interest singly do not get aroused. The lubrication and swelling phase of sexual response do not take place. Most women with arousal problems complain of a dry vagina which often results in introital pain during intercourse. The reaction of the woman to her problem and her educational and cultural orientation are of importance as these will determine whether the woman sees the disability as a problem or not.
3. Orgasmic Difficulty
Failure to obtain and orgasm may or may not be associated with the loss of sexual interest and loss of arousal. It may often be situational; a woman being unable to achieve it either on her own or her partner’s stimulation. It is difficult for a woman to be orgasmic during penetration by itself unless extra clitoral stimulation is applied. Some women find that they can be orgasmic with one partner but not with another. Many men are uncertain as to whether their partner has been orgasmic or not and some women to please their partners, simulate orgasm. Men may attempt coitus too early before the women is fully aroused, because of the assumption that the lubrication stage, which actually occurs in the very early stage of sexual arousal, means that the woman is completely ready for penetration.
Basically, most women do not achieve orgasm when they want to because they have not received sufficient stimulation or are anxious about it.
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Disorder of interest   (loss of libido).
 
 
Some women have no sexual interest, do not become sexually aroused and are non orgasmic. Some have no sexual interest, are not aroused when stimulated but can be orgasmic. Some women who show little or no sexual interest, if stimulated do show an arousal response and are orgasmic. Some women who show little or no sexual interest, if stimulated do become aroused but are not orgasmic. In all these cases the loss of sexual interest (loss of libido) is the main problem. Loss or lack of sexual interest may be due to many factors.

The attitude of a woman who has lost or who as never has sexual interest is important in assessment of the problem. Some women who have no interest in sex are quite content with it and do not see it as a problem. Some are desperately unhappy about it and go to great lengths to try and improve their sexual responsiveness and interest.
Loss of sexual interest in women is largely based on psychological, emotional, cultural, and social factors. Of all the sexual disorders, it is likely that the disorders of sexual interest are the commonest in women.

Marriage Magnifies Our Personal Tendencies.

Each of us enters marriage with established spending habits and expectations about our future lifestyle. Prior to marriage were you ever debt-free? If your answer is no, your natural tendency probably was to overindulge, perhaps your philosophy was eat “eat, drink, and be merry! “You thought that somehow the money would always be there. Believing yourself to be deserving, it was all too easy to use credit cards and get home equity loans and lines of credit instead of budgeting and balancing your checkbook.
If you were responsible over indulger, you settled your debts. If you were responsible immense debit, which you eventually tried to escape again by acquiring yet more debt or by filing bankruptcy. Regardless of your style, as an over indulger, you no doubt faced incredible emotional stress, reduced flexibility, and restricted freedom. Perhaps you became a workaholic.

Often over indulgers marry under indulgers who perceived themselves one step away from financial disaster at all points in time. The underindulger uses money as a guarantee that there is “enough.” How much does it take to feel secure? The underindulger always feels like it will take a little bit more to feel safe and secure. So he or she becomes stingy and hoards and stockpiles all financial assets. While appearing responsible, under indulgers often deny themselves or their mate the basic necessities of life. They can’t really enjoy what they have.
If one mate is an over indulger and the other is an u8nderrindulger, a dangerous pattern will be established. It becomes like a precocious child who is joined in marriage to a withholding, critical parent. Neither partner really chooses to be adult and responsible. Double standards create resentments. One mate may overindulge him or herself and under indulge the spouse. Enough is never enough for both the overindulger and the underindulger.
Responsible adult choices lie at the balance point between overindulging and under indulging. Both of you have something to contribute to your relationship. The underindulger takes care of the necessities, and the overindulger who is generous and more impulsive demonstrates that it is okay to enjoy money. Both of you will need to give a little for the good of your relationship.
What are your spending habits? Rate yourself. Place an “x” where you think you fit on the following continuum:

Money becomes a magical screen on which we project our fears, frustration, and dreams. Each of us must search our histories for clues as to why we have the attitudes we do with regards to money.

Money Means Different Things to Different People

It has been said that “Wherever your treasure is, there your heart and thoughts will also be” Why is it easier to open our hearts to each other but close up our heart when it comes to working together on our finances? Because money problems are seldom about money. One the surface, the issue appears to be financial; however, that is rarely the case. There are deeper issues related to the meaning of money. Here are some examples of those who are dealing with issues other than what they appear to be-money matters.

Carson admitted breaking into a hot sweat the day he and his bride signed up for a joint credit
Card. His anxiety increased. Could he really trust her? Would she put their financial future in jeopardy by her choices?

Julie couldn’t wait to leave home. She wanted to get out where no one would tell her what to do.
She believed the less accountability, the greater the freedom. Now has marriage made her feel restricted?

Rick loved being the centre of attention. His approval rating system demanded that he go into major debt to buy things for his friends
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Sue used money as a antidepressant, a mood changer, so did Joe, who equated money with status. He had to have the latest clothes, toys, and cars. A new purchase worked miracles for both of them. But the fix was temporary
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Juan only feels secure when he has a substantial savings account so he constantly criticizes Patricia for her spending habits. She is wise in her expenditures. But he can’t see that because his fear blinds him.

Christy was struggling with a conflict between being dependent and nurtured by her husband, Ken, so she had been happy to let him handle all the finances. Yet, she was becoming increasingly uncomfortable with some of his choices. It made Ken uncomfortable to hear Christy question some of his decisions

Lee was happy to make the money decisions because he wanted to control his own destiny.

It made him feel important, and he didn’t want to repeat his parents’ pattern. After retirement his
Parents were totally dependent on him.

There is an incredible vulnerability that comes when we give another person access to our finances. The reality is they can now hurt us very badly by taking or misusing the information we have given
them
Prior to marriage, many of us had to answer only to ourselves. A major shift occurred as we began our married life. We are now accountable to each other. How do you react when someone limits you?

We worship it, have love affairs with it, blame it, hate it, dream about it, live for it, pray for more of it, sacrifice our families for it, hand over control of our lives for it,
and wind up in bondage to it. It is our best friend and our worst enemy.


Money matters in a marriage relationship. Money may be an inanimate object, but we attach great emotional significance to it. Money only becomes our friend if we as a couple learn to partner around the decisions related to money. One of the prerequisites for partnering in the matter of money is an understanding of the meaning of money to each of us.

I, remembered earlier in our marriage when took a financial decision which my wife still remembers today. I was offered a car to purchase by a client, when I consulted my wife she was not in support of our buying a second car. But reason being that it is high class car which will make people around and our relations think that we have arrived financially. By so doing, it will attract un-necessary attention to us.
Personally I wanted the car hence my wife did not, for obvious reasons.
I play the card of the head of family and bread winner of the family; she gave in to my fantancies.

When the car started developing faults frequently, it became a financial burden on the family. I did not have the pleasure to share it with her, knowing fully well that she would talk back at me, “reminding me what her position was.” How I went ahead without considering that she objected.
Most times couples have contrary interest in what is needed to be purchased by family. Priority can be viewed from different angles. Some wives may see the purchases made by their spouse as extravagant; some men have hobbies and passions that are at variance with the family well-being

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